WOMEN’S BODIES: AIDS AND YOUR CHILDREN
Women play an important role in educating their children about AIDS (and about other STDs of course, but AIDS is the most likely subject to come up because it has had so much publicity). Children will have heard of it from radio and television and from reading the news, and perhaps from school teachers or talking to other children. It’s important that parents ensure children have clear and accurate information and that they have no unjustified fears about how HIV can be caught. What you say depends on your child’s age and maturity and the circumstances in which the subject is brought up. Some of the pamphlets on AIDS contain information and illustrations suitable for teaching children of various ages.
Preschool children
Preschool children may be too young to grasp the concept of such an illness and are unlikely to ask questions. However, this is a good age to start teaching habits of hygiene that protect against the spread of infections in general (for example, avoidance of contact with other people’s blood, saliva, urine, faeces, discharges and wounds). Also, you can put in some good groundwork for future teaching about AIDS and other sexual matters by encouraging your small children to be as much at ease with and interested in their genitals (including talking and asking about them) as with other parts of the body. This may be hard if you grew up knowing that it was OK to talk about tonsils or lungs, but that mention of the vulva or penis resulted in embarrassment and avoidance (which lads sense and remember even before you’re aware of it yourself). If you want your children to feel free to ask you important sex-related questions when they’re older, you must let them know right from the start that you’re ‘askable’.
The appropriate age to explain more about AIDS is somewhere between 6 and 12 years. It is recommended that parents should bring up the subject rather than waiting to be asked: children may be uneasy about raising a topic that involves such difficult things as sex and death. A newspaper headline or television programme may provide a good opening.
Teenagers
Your teenage children will have read and heard as much as you have, but may not have a mature understanding of this information. Discussion of AIDS with teenagers must be frank and accurate, and provides a good opportunity to reinforce teaching about personal hygiene, safe sex and the use of condoms (which also provide contraception), and the potential dangers of drugs. Many parents find these subjects very difficult, but there is plenty of evidence that teenagers are less likely to run into problems with sex and drugs if these matters are discussed at home.
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